Can you think of a time that you felt completely relaxed, in your element, vulnerable and not judged and completely safe? What were you able to accomplish? Were you more creative, happy, inspired, trusting, open, or connected?
We all need to feel safe in our relationships with our families, children, spouses, friends, and co-workers. The space I am referring to is beyond physical safety it is emotional.
As managers, coaches, teachers, parents, leaders, presenters or speakers, how do we create a space where others feel safe so that they can trust and securely flourish? I believe it requires very specific ingredients plus the ingredient that binds everything together:love.
Yes love. I am not talking about romantic or Polly Anna kind of love where we walk around and say " I love everyone". What I am referring to is the love of wanting others to excel and flourish. This love of wanting others to be empowered to be protagonists in their own lives.
I believe this requires an unwavering belief and trust that others have the capacity to be empowered.
A belief that we are all created noble: we all have inherent goodness in us. We might not act it out but we have it in us.
Being non-judgmental: putting aside our expectation of how events and people should turn out and be open to new possibilities.
The moment that came to your mind earlier, did you notice if others around you believed in you and trusted you? Was that an ingredient in you feeling safe to create, be inspired, open and seeing a greater capacity in yourself?
I know that the times people around me flourished, I was able to get into this zen state of not being judgmental, believing full hardheartedly in their capacity and knowing no matter what that they are noble. And when they did not feel empowered...yep you guessed it I put a kink in the process.
How can we create more spaces so people feel safe to flourish? To create taht space for them to find their smile?
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