Making Music with Money
Featured story on Dare to disrupt firstname.lastname@example.org September 30, 2014.
All my life I followed my heart and did what I loved. That should have been enough but it wasn’t.
Seven years ago I found myself separated, divorced and the sole provider for my 3 kids, ages 10, 7 and 2. I knew how to take care of their mind, heart and soul but not how to provide for them. You see even though I had 2 masters in music, had received several awards, played with wonderful musicians and was pretty busy in my music career, I had no idea how to make what I loved doing into a lucrative business. I had become dependent in my marriage and had nothing to fall back on.
In that moment of desperation I did the only thing I knew how to do: I fell on my knees and begged God to help me. He did. I was given a life changing opportunity to train and nurture volunteers who wanted to teach spiritual classes in their neighborhood. It was consistent income doing what I loved and I could take my kids along. What more did I want!
That job ended after 4 years. I found myself remarried and looking for the next thing I was called to do in life. I got a call from a friend. After 10 minutes we became business partners. We decided that we were going to change the world by giving workshops to parents, teachers and administrators on the Nurtured Heart Approach®. That parenting approach had literally saved my family during the tumultuous years of the divorce. It made complete sense to start a business training others to use this transformative method that I was passionate about.
Once again I found myself doing what I loved but having no clue how to make it a business. Are you seeing the pattern? For 2 years we gave our services away, discounted and over delivered all in the hope of proving ourselves to others. The 2nd year, I had only one client.
One day in my frustration, lack of direction and reason for continuing the business, I looked over at my husband and I thought “What if something happens to him tomorrow? I will be in exactly the same place I was 7 years ago. I felt totally disempowered, dependent on my second husband and really scared.
Forced to confront myself. Sitting on my bed. Baffled. I wondered: How can an intelligent, creative and talented women not know how to make money? What was it about money and me? In attempt to pretend that I was neither scared nor overwhelmed, I had told myself that money would corrupt me, make me materialistic, take the purity out of what I loved. It would bore me. I even fed myself the lie that money doesn’t mean anything. Only what we say it means.
It was time to create a new story.
I passionately convinced my husband to invest in me even though I had no clue how to make back the investment. He listened, looked at me and said ”Yes”. Now I was really scared!
I enrolled in a yearlong training on how to run a coaching business. Along with that program came an opportunity to get certified as a Sacred Money Archetype Certified Coach® to help people heal their relationship with money. The thought being this would be a smart business move. But after the first five minutes on the introductory call, I realized that I needed this to heal MY relationship with money. My problem wasn’t the lack of opportunity to make money, but that I had repeatedly sabotaged myself, so that I could keep my distance from money — lest it should corrupt me.
I was scared, but I stayed the course. I began to see behavior patterns. I faced my resistance. Over and again.
I’m doing what I need to do to build my business. Picking up the phone to get speaking engagements, exposure and clients. I am leading with my heart into the scary place — probably means it’s the right place.
I have more momentum in five months than I did in two years with my prior business.
I’m daring to dream of success — and money.
Learn more about my services. I would love to connect if you want to flourish and live your best self or you believe that everyone should flourish and live their best selves.